Why You Don’t Choose Who You Love (Hidden Relationship Patterns)

Our maternal relationship is linked to our idea of the feminine. If our mother was someone optimistic, brave, strong or shrewd, the feminine will be something powerful to you. If our mother had a victimised, negative, impressionable character, the feminine will be something weak to you. Whether it was the woman or women you had as your first reference -the one who carried and gave birth to you, the one who nourished and raised you, the one you fell in love with, etc.- whichever that woman was, she will be your first contact with the feminine. They will become references. Thus, all your emotions and thoughts -feelings and ideas- will end up influencing you when shaping your defined idea of femininity, whether you are a woman or a man, this will accompany you for the rest of your life. It is enough for one of these first women to ignore or idolise you, for you to seek rejection or attention in every single one of those yet to come. That is to say, the constant search for the bond generated from that reference. If, as a man, your mother overprotected you, you will look for women who can overprotect you. Whatever reference your mother gave you, even abandonment itself. As a man, for example, you will provoke again and again the same feeling that confirms the reference, that is, abandonment. If my mother abandoned me, any woman can do it. The relationship you have with your mother, the idea you extract from that relationship, from the inherited feeling, will be how you look at women and consider the feminine. Nor is this a natural act, if by natural we understand something unprogrammed.

It is programmed that through your mother you either hate or submit to women, that you despise or idolise the feminine. Because they have given the responsibility of life to a single woman, the mother is responsible for gestation and conception, the mother is in charge of nourishment and with it the educational base, the mother is practically the first playful experience, the first mime, the first love and our first relationship. There is no human being prepared to bear all that, and to expect something balanced from it. Why a single mother for everything? Because they have divided us into families, to keep us all disconnected from one another, within our four walls. And they have contaminated the woman with the sense of property. Projecting onto her the belief of maternal responsibility over her child, for the good and/or the bad, in his emotions and thoughts. She will give the best she knows, even if that is not the best. We all grow up with the idea that the greatest love in the world is that of a mother for her child, because she has sacrificed everything, because she is willing to do so. She has lived it. So, if as a woman you are not capable of giving the best of yourself as a mother, it means you are not a good mother. On the other hand, as a man, you will never be able to feel true love, since it belongs to mothers, that is, to women.

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There is only a physical cord, and it is what brings us into life, after our experience in the womb. And that cord is severed once the being leaves the maternal womb. It is the programmed society, under the idea of family, that pushes the woman, as a mother, to maintain that cord tied through the emotional and the mental, beyond the period of conception. Limiting all her love towards a single being, her child. How many women give birth every day? They may be in a group, but they will live it separately. Like mothers -matriarchs-. They will compete to bring into the world the most handsome, healthy and promising child. They will reserve for him the best name, the best crib and the finest clothes. Instead of living it as women, those who bring the species into the world, they will extend the experience of the umbilical cord until they realise what they have done, and have to break it themselves -if at some point it happens- with the same drama that the first cut meant. Whether because you yourself became a mother, or because you found another woman. The woman holds in her power the destiny of an entire species. But instead of living it united, like priestesses of the mother, they aim to be the great mother herself. And this has to do with the very disconnection from the great mother of all.

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